Sunday Night Blues

How is it Sunday already?  Please someone explain this.  Although this weekend was not a busy weekend like the past weekends have been, I feel more exhausted.  Seriously, I feel like I have ran a marathon or accomplished some astonishing task; neither of them happened haha.  I am going to blame this on Daylight’s Savings time and one less hour of sunlight.  Am I the only one feeling this way?? Anyways, I could have used an extra day.

Today I have taken the time to recharge for the upcoming week.  This past week at work was absolutely nuts.  I am talking about multiple hours of over-time and working through lunches.  So I wanted to take time today to relax and get things organized for the week ahead.  Oh, and sleep in!  Sleeping in until 8:30 this morning was a real treat.

How does everyone use their Sundays to prepare for the week ahead?  Personally, I like to spend my Sunday morning/afternoons cleaning and organizing my apartment.  There is just something about waking up to a clean place on a Monday morning.  I also try and cook a big, hearty meal.  On the menu tonight, pork chops and potatoes.  Seriously, it is going to smell amazing in here real soon.

In addition to cleaning, I like to spend an hour or so of uninterrupted time to myself (unplugging when we live in a world of technology is great).  Lately, I have been reading a book called, “The Passenger” by Liza Lutz. The story line is about a girl on the run from her past; changing identities and moving through out the United States.  I am not quite half-way through yet but it is a page turner! I would highly recommend picking this book up. Add a glass of wine and you have yourself a nice relaxing night!

If anyone has tips for beginner level food prep, I would love to start adding that to my Sunday routine especially for making lunches for the upcoming week.  Any tips?

Hope everyone has a great Sunday!  Let’s go into this upcoming with a positive attitude even with the cold weather! 🙂

 

 

 

Ever Feel Unmotivated?

To be honest, I have been asking myself what is the big picture and if the things that I am doing day to day..are they getting me to the place I want to be.  Honestly, for a while I have gotten lazy.  I haven’t been keeping up with working out, keeping my apartment clean and organized, or taking the time to write, which I told myself I was going to.  This past weekend, I started to pick myself out of this funk and dragged myself to the gym and cleaned my entire house on a Saturday.  Ever get in this funk yourself?

Today during a meeting at work, the presenters had us watch motivational videos one of which was one titled, “Retrain your Mind” from Mel Robbins.  Now I understand how cheesy this sounds asking you to watch a video and that it will change how you think, or that it will retrain your mind.  But I would not suggest something that I did not believe in.  If you are in a phase in your life where you are unmotivated or unsure of what the next steps are, watch this video and really listen to what is being said.

My favorite line in the video is, “It is your job to push yourself.”  Again, it sounds cheesy; but it is true.  Although people around you and other factors may inspire or persuade it is only you who can push yourself to reach your goals and crush them.  It is your job to take the steps needed to get you to who you want to be and where you want to be.

I have added a link to take you to the video.  Feel free to leave comments on how it impacted you!  🙂

Retrain Your Mind

“It is your job to push yourself”

Take a Damn Break

After a long week at work filled with back to back meetings and overtime, I wanted to touch on the importance of mental health and well-being.  Although this is getting better, I think this is a topic that is not brought up enough.  And we as a society are not being as open about our own mental health as we could/should be.  Being someone with anxiety, sometimes I put my own mental health on the back burner and continue to push through and tackle things as many things as I can at once.  This more times than not this leads to burn out (and probably an unreasonable breakdown in my car and calling my sister, bless her soul, ranting).  Taking time for myself everyday is something that I personally struggle with sometimes but am working towards becoming better.

Unfortunately even in this day in age, the importance of focusing on your own mental health is not stressed.  We live in a fast paced environment, pushing us to work faster and get more done.  Between working 40 hours a week (sometimes more) and tackling everything on your To Do List; taking time to focus on yourself is hard.  It sometimes requires us to schedule time for ourselves.  Why is it that we lose focus on ourselves and on our own mental health?  I know first hand that when I am stressed out, I toss and turn at night so I do not get a full nights sleep. I have a pit in my stomach, and sometimes my stress leads to me being unfocused and unable concentrate.  So let’s take a vow to focus on our well-being and doing something about it.

The title is as to the point as I could get. Seriously, take a damn break.  Take that ten minute break at work you think you could go without and have a few minutes to yourself. (Weather permitting, go for a walk outside…the fresh air will do you good) Or take an hour on the weekends to relax.  Hell, take a whole weekend to refresh.  Trust me, continuing to hustle at 100 mph for an extended time WILL catch up to you. Taking time for yourself, although at the time it seems selfish, it is important to your well-being.  You will feel more relaxed and able to tackle your workload more efficiently.

How do I take time to relax?  Well, it all depends on if I am at work or at home.  I take an hour or so on the weekends to not look at my phone and relax.  This could be enjoying a nice glass of wine, a good work-out, a coffee date with friends or family.  (coffee dates are great…try them).  Take advantage of weekends when the stress of work is left at your desk.  When I am at work and feeling overwhelmed, I will try to take advantage of my breaks and de-stress by taking a walk or venting to a friend during lunch.  I also listen to relaxing music and take a few deep breaths to refocus.

Let’s all take a vow to make our mental health and well-being a priority in our lives and to take time for ourselves.

**Seriously, if you are someone who deals with anxiety and/or panic attacks or have moments of high stress I suggest that you download the song “Weightless” by Marconi Union.  This is a life changer for me.  I listen to this at work when I am stressed or just need to re-focus.  

Letter to My 20 Year Old Self

I originally wanted to write a letter to my eighteen year old self, giving life advice I know now.  However, after thinking this over I realized that at eighteen I was carefree and probably wouldn’t listen to this advice anyways.  Eighteen year olds know everything right? At least I thought I did.  (currently laughing at that thought). I chose to write a letter to my twenty year old self because I was in a terrible relationship, was struggling to find who I really was, and trying to juggle taking eighteen credits a semester while working and having a social life.  I wish I knew then what I know now.

*Disclaimer: There is swearing.

Dear Twenty Year Old Ashley,

Take a deep breath.  Seriously, relax a little bit.  That test you have been studying for the last 8 hours…you are going to do just fine.  Diving head first into those court cases and determining your arguments and which previous cases you are going to reference and counter reference will pay off.  But breathe.  Remember, debate is your non-birth middle name and you can argue your way through anything.   You got this! You are working your ass off and it is paying off…but maybe you are overworking yourself.  We both know, those all-nighters are no good for someone who loves sleep as much as you do.

Do not be in such a rush to figure out what you are going to do for the rest of your life. You are going to be doing something you never thought you would be doing…and you love it.  Keep your options and mind open.  You do not need to know right now at this exact second what your career path will be.  Between you and me, I am not sure how anyone expects you to know at such a young age what you want to do as a career.  You have the whole world at your finger tips.  So don’t be in such a rush to figure it all out.  Spoiler alert, you will NOT be an attorney, living in a big city but you will learn that is the opposite of what you want.

Now look around you.  Although you won’t believe me when I say this but in five years from now not everyone around you will still be apart of your life. And that is okay.  It is okay to lose a few people or drift away from some.  As the years go by, you will not be able to send a text asking if they were going to the party at Lafayette Street or on Franklin (Winona State alumni…you know what I am talking about ha) or make last-minute plans.  Or find someone to work for you and take the day off to spend with your friends.  You become busy and they become busy.  Your friends move away and start their own lives.  Now, with this being said.  I want you to enjoy every last second of it.  Spend as much time as you can with your friends from home and from WSU.  Trust me, those moments will mean a hell of a lot more when you are older and you will reminisce when you meet up with your friends again.  Your heart will smile a little bit when you drive through Winona and your hometown.  You will think back on old memories and all the dumb things you did and laugh.  Some people are not meant to stay in your lives forever but you will always have those memories.

Most importantly, if someone treats you like shit, they do not give a shit.  They don’t! Trust me.  Stop trying to justify the shitty things toxic people do.  I know this is easier said than done but in the end you are the only one getting hurt.  You are too good of a person to let someone suck the light out of you.  And do not apologize for walking (in some instances running) away and blocking them from your lives.  You do not owe them an apology.  This includes relationships and friendships.

And stop trying to please everyone and be perfect.  You do not have to make everyone around you happy.  This will not make you happy.  Your happiness cannot defined by making everyone else around you happy.  Ashley, accept that you are flawed and perfection does not exist. You are a human being.  You will make mistakes.  Actually, you will make a lot of mistakes.  The best part is, the people who mean the most will not think of you any less.

Start building a foundation for a healthy lifestyle now.  I am not saying to spend 3 hours int the gym and go on runs.  But stay active and be active.  Do what you can now to be healthier so it is a little easier down the line.  And remember to take care of yourself both physically and mentally.

I promise you are doing better than you think.

Love,

The “Older and Wiser” Twenty-Five Year Old Ashley.